The Five "Love" Languages

Being the amaaazing girlfriend that I am ;) I decided that it might be a good idea to read up on the ole 5 love languages and make sure that Dan and I were communicating in the way that would be best for each other. I checked the book out from the library and Dan and I spent some time last night reading through it together. Now, I was very gung ho about this and was taking it seriously as was he, until we got to chapter two about the "love tank". This lead to numerous jokes as well as annoying comments. I just marched on like a trooper, reading loudly over the stupid jokes and making some snide comments, to which he would reply, " you're depleting my love tank!" and then laugh hysterically. Now I admit, it was funny at times and i was laughing some. So after that, I decided that we both needed to take the quizzes at the back of the book to determine what our individual love languages were before reading about the different love languages. We started with him and i got out a pen and a piece of paper to record the profound answers that would take our love to the next level. Question one: "Would you rather receive a hug from your partner or hear your partner say i love you". Dan's response was.
"both, depends on the day...i can't answer that". As i LOVINGLY tried to explain to him that it was what he would MOST enjoy or feel the MOST loved from, he kept saying he didn't know and that he liked both of them. So i answered the question for him. This sort of thing went on for the next 10 questions with him only really answering one. I was very frustrated at this point because COME ON! just answer the questions!! We were arguing back and forth about the questions and both starting to get very frustrated with each other. Finally i made a mean comment as to which he got up and left the room. We sat alone for about 15 minutes before I went in and apologized to him. He explained to me that to him, the questions were equally as good and it would be like asking a victim of domestic violence if she would rather her husband slap her or calling her a bad name. Obviously you want neither. So we made up and then laughed hysterically about the fact that while we were trying to improve our love, we ended up arguing and not speaking to each other. We decided to nix the book. I think Dan put it best when he told me, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it".