The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce

Hmm, it seems I have been neglecting this site in favor of networking sites such as Myspace or Facebook(yes I will be 26 in two weeks and yes, i fully acknowledge that I am a loser) so am not sure anyone will still continue to read this so this may be a little social experiment. Anyways, I digress.
Dan and I have started reading some books on Adult Children of Divorce. We are especially enjoying "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce", which is a book written after a 25 year study on the effects of divorce on children, which followed them into their adult lives. This was the first study that really looked at the effect of divorce on kids as they got older and grew into adults. We've only made it through the introduction and started the first chapter but already it has began impacting us and our thoughts.

Both of us come from divorced families, neither of us had many, if any, healthy marriages in our life to model for us what a Godly marriage looks like. This has presented problematic as we get older and look towards embarking on a marital journey, whether with each other or someone one else. I think that it's interesting to examine the full effects that divorce has on a society, the way it alters the idea of marriage. Divorce has weakened the institution of marriage in our society(I know, duh) but i think it has weakened it in ways people never imagined 25 years ago when divorce became acceptable. I learned that there used to be no such thing as a "no fault divorce", that there needed to be a darn good reason to dissolve your marriage, such as infidelity, or the courts would not grant you a divorce. Just not being happy wasn't good enough. I guess I'm wondering when did people begin to think that it was ok to bail when things weren't going great? I know we are selfish creatures by nature but I thought entering into marriage was another step in laying that selfishness down?

Like I said, we have barely got started on the book, but so far it's great, pinpoints our thoughts and feelings exactly and has been beneficial to us, to know we aren't the only ones out there with similar thoughts and emotions regarding this subject. Who knows, maybe this will drive us further and further away from any thoughts of marriage or maybe it will bring us closer in our pursuit of lifetime love, either way it's going to be interesting.

In other random news:
1. We are going to Hawaii again at the end of March to visit my friend Katie. Love that place
2. Work is going all right. We've revamped an old program, which I am the person working directly with the families. Now, I am not only a Juvenile Officer II/case manager but I am also a Family Focus Specialist. sweet.
3. I am ready for Spring
4. I am addicted to "The Office"
5.I am going to try posting on a more regular basis.